You're not going to regale your grandchildren with stories about when you gave up. So don't give up. Unless you've changed your mind about what you want. You're allowed to do that, you know. The trick is to figure out when your goals have changed, and when your fears are getting the best of you.

You don't have memories so much as memories of memories. Ever heard that? If you have, does it ring as true to you as it does to us? And what do you commit to memory, anyway? The answer to that may well determine how happy you are.

You will succeed to the extent you're willing to fail. Easy to say, difficult to remember as you're suffering what feels like a permanent setback. That's why Jane and I devote an hour to the practice of failing. Yes, the practice. You can get better at failing. Like Jane suggests with her acting students, you can fail bigger -- and faster.