How are you peopled?
September 3, 2019

It’s a fascinating question, and it’s courtesy of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone author Lori Gottlieb. She doesn’t tell you what it’s like to be in therapy. She shows you, by sharing the stories of a few of her patients. And at least as importantly, by sharing what it was like to be a patient.

She keeps things confidential, by the way, in the usual ways. I’ll let her explain how.

I felt a wave of recognition when she talked about what an experience, what a privilege, it was to spend an hour a week in conversation with people. That’s what I’ve been doing on the talk show for eleven years, and to say I’m not the same person I was before I started is one definition of understatement. I mean, really. How many times have Darrell and I joked with our guests that no matter what the topic, it amounts to therapy? I find people I want to learn from, whom I love or at least admire from afar, and invite them on the show. Many of them become good friends. Real friends, not just internet friends.

“We grow in connection with others,” Lori says. Here’s hoping! I’ve long thought I’m the swirl of every person I’ve ever known, and given how careful I am about the company I keep, that’s a good thing.

What remains after we’re gone? Even the skeptics concede we live on in the people who love us.

I’m peopled with the sort that makes me think I won the cosmic lottery. Their voices, their laughter, their ways of being here make me glad I’m still here. It’s such a lovely feeling, as one pal put it, to be forever friends.

And these otherwise ordinary days? Still more chances to thank the heavens for the company I keep.