Is trashing people really your style?
February 28, 2019

The AndersonsWhen I was newly married I was struck by the willingness of some of my friends to complain to me about their husbands. Darrell and I were friends with the husbands, after all. It struck me as bad form.

Darrell was amused by that, and dared me to try an experiment. “Vent a little,” he suggested. “Tell them how not fun I am to live with sometimes.”

“I can’t return the favor,” I told him. He laughed. “I know,” he said. “It’s no problem.”

So I tried it. I was with a few friends the very next day, and when the conversation turned to family I admitted I was married to someone who “knew” he could always do things better and faster than me. It was unnerving. But I took so much care with the wording one woman thought I’d given Darrell a compliment.

The next day I woke up with a throbbing headache and an extremely sore throat.

We put the experiment in the win column. I like to keep it classy, and my body made that clear!