Can you ease someone’s pain?
January 21, 2019

When Katie was little she bumped her head -- hard -- on the back of a chair at McDonald’s. She started howling, which wasn’t her style unless she was in a lot of pain.

I almost started crying at her report: “I wasn’t watching where I was going.”

This is the four-year-old version of taking one-hundred percent responsibility for your life. It was, as the kids say, impressive AF. I was in awe, but I snapped out of it long enough to realize there was something I could do to help. “I’ll count to ten,” I told her. “I promise you’ll feel better by the time I’m finished.”

It worked. And it made me wonder if we ever outgrow the need for reassurance that (1) we’re not alone in our pain, and (2) whatever it is won’t always hurt.