What helps?
September 10, 2018

When Katie was little we never tried to talk her out of being sad. We never told her not to cry. Well, Darrell did once! He came around quickly, though.

When you suggest people “calm down” or “smile” or “buck up” they have a new problem. They were sad, and now they’re ashamed.

Sometimes the only way to feel better is to let yourself feel even worse. Practice on yourself. You’ll see how effective it is.

Be religious about it with your children. They’ll learn to trust themselves.

Afford the person you’re married to that courtesy. Collectively we’d save -- what? -- a million billion dollars (or so!) in therapy.