Who defines you?
May 22, 2018

“You are relentless,” a best pal once told me. She meant it as a compliment, and I took it that way. She’s still a best pal, and we make a point to get together in person whenever we can. We could talk all day every day for the rest of our lives, it seems, and still feel like we’re only getting started.

I hope you have people like her.

If you’re anything like me, there are many more people you think of with affection who’ve faded from “best pal” status. I used to feel vaguely guilty about that, until I realized how difficult it was to make time for everyone. It isn’t personal, not necessarily. It’s just math.

And besides, everyone you’ve ever loved is still part of you. You’re the swirl, as Anne Lamott might say, of every person you’ve ever known. Isn’t that the sweetest thought?