What makes you swoon?
January 2, 2018

There’s a guy we used to work with occasionally and now see once a year at the most for maybe five minutes. He’s a good person to have on your side, but he keeps switching teams -- so our relationship with him has been complicated.

I find it impossible to stay mad at him, though. Not that I make it a goal! But you know how it goes. You afford more slack to people, depending. And this gentleman has a quality often ascribed to Bill Clinton. When he’s talking with you it’s as if you’re the only person in the room.

He makes eye contact, and it’s sustained. He isn’t looking over your shoulder for someone more interesting to talk with, and he isn’t checking his phone for something more interesting to do. He asks you a question, listens to your answer, and bases his next question on what you just said. It’s intoxicating.

You don’t have to send flowers or treat me to an expensive meal. But if you’re engaged? I’m putty. Promise.