Do you have professional help?
July 29, 2017

“I have lots of skills. This isn’t one of them.” Isn’t that a sweet way to forgive yourself for not knowing how to hook up a stereo, fix a leaky faucet, or diagnose a problem with your car’s engine? That’s one gift of aging, I think, the increasing willingness to pay people for what they’re good at -- instead of trying to do it yourself and creating a bigger, more expensive, problem for someone else to solve after all.

Once upon a time I relied on someone for help I need occasionally. Let’s call it dentistry. My “dentist” was an expert. His rates were more than fair, and I trusted him.

There was a catch, though. The gentleman threw in an extra I hadn’t asked for, running commentary on aspects of my life unrelated to dentistry. I can’t think of a single observation that didn’t leave me in tears. One day I confided in a friend about it, and I almost laughed out loud at his reaction: “Have you thought about getting a different dentist?”

That’s it. That’s the end of this story. New dentist, no further problems. Makes you wonder if sometimes we’re determined to make things more difficult than they have to be.